She sets the pace…

slowdownBefore every meal that Amy and I sit down to, we lean into each other to express our gratitude and appreciation for each other… and to offer a kiss.  This is a prayerful moment for me as I express these parts of my love for her… to her.  While being able to enter into that space with her is wonderful enough… there are also moments leading up to that which are just as special.

There is often a tug of war over who gets to put food on their plate first.  Often times we will pile the food on our plate at the stove and then move to the table.  I always insist that she get hers first… and she returns the insisting that I go first… I tend to give in most of the time.

She likes it that way.

From the stove, I will move my plate to the dinner table where I will put it down, and anxiously wait for Amy to arrive with hers.  I don’t sit down yet… because my heart is longing for her arrival (even though it is usually just a few feet of distance between us).  Sometimes, I need to remind the kiddos (who are already seated) not to take a bite until she arrives.  She is worth the wait.

Finally… Amy will arrive with her food, and I will time out my sitting down with her… so that I can lean in for that kiss… and the expression of gratitude and appreciation.

This is only one example of one of the greatest lessons I have learned in my life from Amy… the importance of a woman being able to set the pace.

As a man… with many ideas… I have had the double edged sword experience of having the ability to jet off in many directions… satisfying the ideas and ambitions within me.  But have burned out trying… or been too afraid to actually move any of those ideas into reality.

I had no sense of pace.

A woman has a natural way about her that feels her way into waiting.  As a man… I can suggest any number of directions that we could head… all of them may be good… but not all of them may be the way that we should go.  And so I need her…

I need her to set the pace… so that the good ideas drop off… and the great ideas remain.

I need her to set the pace… so that as a man, I can appreciate more that natural intuition she has to feel her way through life with me.

I need her to set the pace… because sometimes, as a man… I miss the urgency of a situation where action is needed… now.

I need her to set the pace… because in my ability to move from point A… to B… to C… sometimes I miss the opportunities to pause at point A.1… A.2…. A.3…

Men tend to miss out on a lot of life… because we haven’t learned to slow our pace down long enough to smell the roses.  We get pace wrong… a lot.

… and so I need her…

To teach me how to to trust… and to find God in the places that move slower in life… to breath in all of the graces I would have missed… had I set off on my own… and expected her to keep up.

03 What’s the Bible About… not going to judge you

As I set out to write these posts… I had to make some general assumptions about you, the reader.  I figure that if you are going to spend your time at this website… perusing these words and ideas… you must have some questions and/or are seeking some understanding about what the Bible is all about.


The Bible is just as much about how to live a spiritual life as it is ideas about God, humanity and creation.  I don’t assume that you will necessarily be able to adopt everything that is written here, and that you may not even agree with me along the way… and that is ok.


I have read the whole Bible… and have digested many books, videos and seminars about it.  I have many years of schooling that were intentional on understanding what this book means for our lives.  Many of the ideas and practices from those tools I have employed for understanding… I have dismissed because I too have not agreed with other peoples take on the Bible.


The influencers that I do keep by my side are few… and I regulary turn to their work for insight and understanding.  The three main players still ‘by my side’ in various media of study are Eugene Peterson, NT Wright, and Rob Bell.


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A little about what I may or may not know about why you are still reading…  If any of the following ideas resonate with you… then these posts are for you:


  • You’ve heard about the Bible and are curious to know more because it is the central text to the Christian religion.
  • You see religious wars (whether geographical or ideological) on the news and you want to see what the big fuss is.
  • You are familiar with a few stories in the Bible (like Noah’s Ark… Jonah and the Whale… or David and Goliath)… and you’d like to understand more.
  • You are a person seeking a spirituality, and you want to know if the Bible can be a part of your journey.
  • You are a Christian, but have never been able to find a way to understand what the Bible is meaning to say from cover to cover.
  • You attend a church regularly… but still go home feeling like you don’t get it… and are missing something.
  • You’ve seen the Indiana Jones movies and wondered why that dudes face melts off near the end of Raiders of the Lost Ark.
  • You’ve seen those TV preachers and wondered, ‘What the hell?’
  • You’ve wondered if there really is a hell.


The list could go on and on… and one thing that I want to assure you of… is that no matter where you are coming from… no matter your questions or concerns… regardless of where you’ve been… you are welcome to be a part of this discussion.


I’m not going to judge you…


Now… how is this all going to be organized?